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Mindfulness Misunderstood

Updated: Apr 4

Life coach. Mindset therapist. EFT practitioner. Clinical hypnotherapist. MBSR

Over the past 40 years Mindfulness has become known as a really powerful tool for cultivating present moment awareness  reducing stress, and improving our overall well-being.

However, as with any idea that becomes trendy, misconceptions and common mistakes can confuse the true essence of mindfulness. 

So I'm going to call time on mindfulness being misunderstood, address common mistakes, explore the numerous benefits, and delve into effective mindfulness techniques.

Common Misconceptions about Mindfulness:

1.Mindfulness is about emptying the mind:this could not be further from the truth.

Mindfulness is not about achieving a completely blank mind. In fact you'd be dead if you had a blank mind. Mindfulness is about the exact opposite it's about being completely focused on what is happening in the present moment without judgment, your aim is to just observe your thoughts and feelings without getting caught up in them.

2. Mindfulness is only about relaxation: This is also not true.

While relaxation is a natural byproduct, mindfulness is not just a relaxation technique. It's a practice to help you to develop awareness, to cultivate a state where we don't react but where we can instead choose to respond, and this help you to build resilience. Resilience is another term that is misunderstood. To be resilient just means that you have faith that you will get through something

3.Mindfulness is time-consuming:

You don't need hours of meditation to practice mindfulness. Short, consistent sessions can be just as effective. It's about quality, not quantity.

Common Mistakes in Mindfulness Practice:

Trying too hard: Ironically, trying hard to be mindful can create stress and defeat the purpose. It's essential to allow the practice to unfold naturally. The more you do it, the better it feels so the more you want to do it.

Expecting immediate results:

Mindfulness is a skill that develops over time, maybe even a lifetime. So to expect an instant transformation into some zen like being is only going to lead to frustration. Patience is key in cultivating mindfulness.

Judging experiences as 'good' or 'bad':

Mindfulness encourages non-judgmental awareness. Labeling experiences as positive or negative doesn't really help as you can't see all of life or the impact that things will have on you. All you have is the knowledge from your past and the present moment. Mindfulness teaches you to not assign a value to something but instead to accept it as it is and work from there.

Acceptance of what is, without judgment, is a fundamental aspect of mindfulness that can bring who change in your perception of what is happening to you and opens up new options to managing how you will respond.

Benefits of Mindfulness:

Stress Reduction:

Mindfulness has been shown to decrease stress levels because it teaches you how to stop your thoughts from controlling you so that you can create a calm and balanced state of mind.

Improved Focus and Concentration:

Regular mindfulness practice enhances your cognitive functions, which means that you are more likely to have better focus and concentration. Essentially, the brain is like a big muscle, the more it practises something, the more it improves.

Better Emotional Well-being:

Mindfulness helps you to regulate emotions, reduce anxiety, and increase overall emotional resilience by helping us to see emotions not as instructions but as a warning that your thinking isn't serving you.

Mindfulness Techniques and How to Use Them:

Breath Awareness:

Focus on your breath, observing each inhalation and exhalation. When the mind wanders, gently bring the focus back to the breath. Don't try to change it, don't get frustrated. Just watch it with curiosity to see what happens.

Body Scan:

Systematically bring attention to different parts of the body, noticing any sensations without judgment.

Mindful Walking:

Pay attention to each step and the sensations involved in walking. This can be done indoors or outdoors.

And then of course there the Benefits of having therapy with a professional who is Mindfulness-Based like me:

Because working from a mindful perspective alongside my therapy training gives me a deeper understanding of how your thoughts impact on your emotions and how they both influence your speech and actions and what you can do to challenge and change these routines.

I can provide tailored support as part of your therapy, to help you to integrate mindfulness into your lifestyle as a tool for self discovery and personal growth.

As with most all therapists, I offer accountability and ongoing support, ensuring consistency in your developing mindfulness practice.

And as well as supporting you to address the issues that you first wanted therapy for , I can show you how to bridge the gap between a separate mindfulness practice and integrating it into your daily life.

In doing so, I empower you with the control to change your life by changing your mind.

Instead of living life in a never ending cycle of trigger and reaction, I can help you to mindfully choose to observe and respond which enables you to manifest a more peaceful and fulfilling life.

If this sounds like what you are looking for, then please get in touch.


Mindfulness is a powerful and accessible practice with numerous benefits when you approach it with understanding and commitment. By challenging common myths, avoiding pitfalls, and embracing these effective techniques, you can use mindfulness to create a more balanced life. And in choosing to work with with a mindfulness-based life therapist when working through your difficulties, you have the added bonus of life changing insight and support on your journey.

Thanks for reading.


You can contact me here:

07974 618499


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